Individual Thoughts

Individuals are called individuals for the reason that they are. Individuals are unique. Yet we tend to classify them into groups of masses. Of homogenised, over-generalised groups. Without respect to the individual characteristics that make them individuals. Is it our need to see people conform to what we want them to be? Like how a Malay person should be. Or how a guy should not love another guy, or get a facial. Or should I retract and say that a straight guy should not love another guy, and yet in the same breath, we say that love is blind. Or how a consultant should look all polished up and confident. I am guilty of the last one, in fact I teach my consultants to be like that. Hmmm...

Like how people say that you have to have a lover that loves you and only you, and not someone that you share with someone else. Even when that is what works best for you considering the circumstances that surround you, and the other person. Or you should retain your friends for life, even when your lives have gone very separate ways, that the friendship is more of a burden and makes you cringe with pain, just because it is a friendship and that is what is expected out of a friendship? What makes people think what works best for them will be so for another?

So what are these conformities that we expect? Because we are individuals, we tend to have our individual characterisations of our groups, like my definition of someone Malay is probably slightly different from yours. Or my definition of a friend differ from the next person's.

All I can say is that we just want people to be who we want to be, and not what they want to be. Which makes all of us selfish.